Give it a shot and let me know what you hear.
See if you can spend even ten minutes on your way to or from work just listening without making any judgments at all, without honking back when someone honks at you, without turning on the radio to block it all out. If you read the paper on the train, trying folding it up. If you are one of those people whose briefcase is open the minute you board the bus, leave it closed. You have another job to do now, the practice of pure listening. (p. 94)